I don’t like to judge people’s worth, even to the extent of comparing an athlete’s worth to a policeman’s. If I judge, I get judged back, and that’s not cool!

But there is a valid point to consider at the root of you plea. Right now, worth is often judged by how much money one can bring in. For example, sports are high draws on TV, and enable large sums to be paid to those that draw the audience. As society values other types of activities more than these, then the dollars shift in that direction. So, I suppose the answer to your question, “How do we level the playing field?” is, that as society puts higher worth on different activities, the dollars are going to flow in that direction. And a large part of this change in direction will be valuing worth, not according to popularity and media draw, but by spiritual good accomplished.

One of the great assets of a healthy marriage is the ability to talk openly, freely, compassionately, patiently, and with understanding to one’s spouse. I’m guessing, from what you wrote, that the greater need here is not so much getting your husband to do something, as to be able to talk with him about your thoughts and concerns and not fear negative consequences. If two people share deep concerns with mutual consideration, love and understanding, tough issues can be worked out in peace and harmony. I’d suggest making this your first prayer, to see how you can tell him what you said above. Pray for a Christ-like way to talk with him. Take any negativity out of your thinking, any critical attitude, any self-righteousness, any animosity or resentment. Get rid of those for they are destructive. And share your concerns with respect, open-mindedness and a listening attitude to his point of view. Working in love, some type of mutual understanding will develop.

Hope that helps!

This has all left me feel alone (we do not have children) in our marriage and, honestly, and a bit like a victim. I am afraid of my husband getting used to this picture of me providing for the family, while he is busy taking care of other things. This has been going on for a few years.

Recently, I started getting really frustrated to the point that I feel resentful. He does some temporary jobs, but the overall working condition is bad, and he does not practically bring any income to the household. I feel disappointed and discouraged, to the point where I feel trapped by his predicament. I want him to regain his confidence, but … I am afraid of seeing my husband getting increasing “numb” about the situation and not really taking initiatives any more. While I do have capability to provide (e.g., paying the bills), I do believe that he ought to take a fair responsibility as a husband. Yet, nothing has been happening…. Any thoughts?